being yourself//the biz
(Note: Ladies, this post is specifically geared toward you amidst your wedding process. Not to say that the guys aren't involved but they're not the one who had their entire wedding pinned before he put a ring on it.) The quote below by Oscar Wilde (image source here) sums up everything I will try to say in this post:
Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.
Shooting weddings many weekends of the year, it's easy to see trends come and go in the wedding industry. No doubt, these trends are beautiful...but most of them don't hold meaning. Based around attire, decor, reception events, pre-wedding festivities and more, these decisions are often made without a purpose behind them.
It's undeniable that Pinterest had changed the way a bride can design her big day. It has become easier to create inspiration boards, look for DIY projects and even find vendors-I love it too! But that wedding on Pinterest you're pulling inspiration from
...it already happened.
And it wasn't yours.
Your relationship with your future husband is like nobody else's: there will be no other couple that is the same as you. So why would you want your wedding to look like everyone else's? Many of these trends are beautiful, and I don't guarantee that you won't see some at my own wedding, but be yourself. From your guests' perspective, your wedding day is a representation of your new life together: a day-long celebration filled with what you value and what you think is important, so plan carefully and creatively.
A few notes to help you do just that:
1. Show your personality
Implement aspects from your personalities into your wedding. If you're one to seek out patterns in outfits and decor, throw a fun pattern into your reception details; implement favorite foods, hobbies and music throughout your wedding day. If you love screaming along to Florence+the Machine on the drive to work each morning, let her join you on the dance floor toward the end of the night!
2. Don't feel pressured to follow trends
Shooting weddings in the south has taught me one thing for certain: southern brides love their southern weddings. Lace, burlap, mason jars and don't forget the cowboy boots. Beautiful? Of course. Unique to each couple? Not so much. I'm not saying that these traditions don't work for all, but think about the meaning behind your placement of these details. A quick example: A friend of mine is getting married this summer and you would find details such as mason jars, twine and lace doilies scattered all about her apartment-she truly loves them and uses them in her every day life! Every details at her wedding will have a story behind it. So when they find their way to her upcoming wedding, they will all have a purpose! Even if they're not 'in style,' it's better to incorporate details that hold significance instead of ones that have nothing to do with you. Like I mentioned earlier, your wedding is a reflection of your marriage and you are one of a kind so don't feel like you need to follow what is trending.
3. Don't feel pressured to follow traditions
Traditions come and often need to be let go! This is not your momma's wedding so it's not vital to have 'staple items' of a ceremony and reception take place. If you love pie, skip the cake and serve your guests pie. If you don't want to throw a bouquet at your friends (cue Beyonce) skip that tradition. If you value specific family and friends, grab a mic during the reception and tell them! Nobody is forcing you to keep tradition, so why not start your own?
4. Utilize the professionals
The main benefit to working with experienced vendors (note: you should) is that they know what they're doing; professionals are there for a reason. Utilize your vendors, ask their opinion on your decisions but also present your own ideas. Professionals are the voice of reason to help keep your decisions practical, but they are also a source for creativity. You'd be surprised at how excited a vendor will be to work with someone who is willing to step outside of the box.
5. Focus on the big picture
Your wedding could be in the middle of an abandoned parking lot or involve a magic show, for all it matters. As long as you remember that the point of the day is that you are marrying your best friend and celebrating with the community around you, wedding day accomplished. Nuff said.
And the cherry ontop (hey! have ice cream sundaes if you want!) about having your wedding unique to you+your fiance? Your guests will walk away remembering how your wedding was like no one else's.